Personal
Overview
“Belonging is the invitation to be your full self, however that looks. It is the opportunity – no matter who you are – to learn, live, and love, to be honored, encouraged, and allowed to develop as you and as part of the groups that develop and celebrate your identities, needs, and contributions.”
– Susan Wise, Design for Belonging
Belonging is linked to our understanding of identity and the power relationships we experience as we navigate and connect to the world.
As individuals, there are several ways we can begin to explore our identity, the power that accompanies it, and our relationship to it:
- Personal Agency: How we claim and acknowledge our power matters. We can understand our sense of belonging through self-exploration, education, and resilience. Belonging requires authenticity, honesty, repairing relationships, compassion for ourselves and others, and embracing dissent.
- Structure & Systems: As we recognize the external forces at play and our environment’s impact on power and our sense of belonging, we work to understand the systems that shape our world, find ways to participate in decision-making, and invite others to join us.
- Change Agents: Embracing belonging requires shifting a paradigm of how we relate to others. We can model how to invite people to reflect on and challenge existing power dynamics and model behavior that encourages belonging by redefining roles and expectations.
Look at your worldview with a lens of belonging. Areas covered in this pathway include:
- Self-Awareness
- Self-Knowledge
- Allyship
- Resilience
- Restorative Practices
Why it Matters
When we belong, we are comfortable participating and contributing to a shared purpose. We can be our whole, authentic selves, share our talents, expertise, and knowledge generously, and encourage others to do the same. When we belong, we can be vulnerable and curious while remaining confident in our connections to others. When we belong, we feel seen. When we acknowledge the humanity of others, we extend the embrace of belonging and create community.
As library workers, our actions impact our community. The decisions we make and the actions we take affect our patrons, co-workers, community members, and ourselves. Our choices and interactions, whether passive or active, help shape our environment and directly impact our well-being.
Foundation
Use a journal to track your learning journey or download the Pathways Tracking Document.
Begin by freewriting responses to the reflection prompts below. Set a timer for 10-15 minutes, and write a response with everything you’re thinking about one prompt. This isn’t being graded or shared – this is just for you. If other thoughts enter your mind, write them down as well.
When the time is up, read what you wrote. What’s valuable? What may be discarded? How does the prompt reflect your learning?
Reflection Prompts:
- Share a personal experience where you felt a strong sense of belonging. Where were you? Who was there? What did it feel like?
- Describe an environment where you felt you belonged. How is that different from other spaces?
- What connection do you see between belonging and power?
- How does your identity impact your understanding of belonging, and its relationship to power?
- Explore how different aspects of your identity (race, gender, sexuality, etc.) intersect to shape your sense of belonging. How can organizations and communities better address intersectionality to create a sense of belonging?
- What challenges have you faced in feeling as if you belonged? What strategies did you use to address those challenges?
- As you’ve had a chance to learn and understand the power you hold, and how that influences your idea of belonging, how can you apply that to your life?
- Are there any places in your life where you would like to correct a power imbalance? Where, and what would that look like?
- If you had an opportunity to create an ideal community where everyone belonged, what would it look like? What services would you offer? Who would be involved?
- Envision a future where belonging is a universal experience. What does it feel like? What are some small steps we can take to begin our journey?
Equity, Diversity, Inclusion & Social Justice 101
Are you trying to figure out where to start? Do you wonder what some of the words you hear or read mean? This is a place to begin to familiarize yourself with some of the language used when we talk about equity, diversity, inclusion, and social justice – all of which are a part of belonging.
Self-Awareness
Self-awareness refers to how we understand ourselves as individuals and move through the world. When self-aware, we’re in touch with our thoughts, feelings, beliefs, and values and how those qualities impact our actions. Self-awareness is one of the aspects of Emotional Intelligence, along with self-regulation, empathy, motivation and social skills.
Three types of self-awareness:
- Public: Our understanding of how others see us and our ability to follow social norms
- Private: How we see and know ourselves when we are alone
- Professional: How our colleagues and those in our profession see us, how we interact with others in a workspace
Tools & Resources
- Complete the Power Flower exercise (understanding our power)
- Take the Trusted 10 exercise (understanding our relationships to others)
Consider:
- What did you learn about yourself?
- Was there anything that surprised you?
- How does this shape your understanding of the power you hold?
Assess Your Emotional Intelligence:
- Emotional Intelligence Quiz (Source: Last Eight Percent)
- Emotional Intelligence Quiz (Source: Mind Tools)
- Emotional Intelligence Toolkit (Source: HelpGuide.org)
Go Deeper:
Self-Knowledge
Self-knowledge is our understanding of who we are and why we do the things we do. How we understand and see ourselves helps us understand others. While self-awareness lets us identify what we are doing and why it matters to us, self-knowledge answers the question of why we do the things we do. By understanding ourselves, we get a deeper understanding of others.
Tools & Resources
- Social Identity Wheel (University of Michigan)
- Personal Identity Wheel (University of Michigan)
- Reflect on how your personal identity is or isn't informed by your social identity.
- Identity and Public Harassment
Allyship
Being an ally requires us to step into our power and use it to advocate for others who may not have a voice or a seat at the table. It’s a way to support people who have been marginalized, recognizing their value, talents, and creativity and amplifying their contributions to our community. Being an ally requires taking action to improve the representation and champion the voices of those who are historically silenced or ignored. It requires us to empathize with others while intentionally working to ensure that we recognize and value everyone’s contributions and complexity.
At different times in our lives, we may find ourselves in the role of an ally or in need of an ally. This mutual support is what strengthens our bonds and makes us a part of a community.
Tools & Resources
- Guide to Allyship by Amélie Lamont
- 5 Tips For Being An Ally by Franchesca Ramsey (short video)
- Radical Empathy
Resilience
Resilience is our ability to bounce back after disruption and adapt to new circumstances. It allows us to move forward no matter the setbacks we face. The key to resilience is community – having a trusted circle of people who can provide support as we navigate difficulty. As librarians, our resilience shows up as innovation, when we provide curbside services during the pandemic, offer social connection programs for neurodivergent patrons, or adapt and persist in the face of ongoing intellectual freedom challenges. The stronger our connection to others, the more resilient we can be. The Growth Mindset supports resilience.
Growth Mindset
As people who promote lifelong learning, the growth mindset (coined by Dr. Carol Dweck of Stanford University) is a principle many of us practice daily. It’s the idea that knowledge is an ongoing, developing learning process we build daily. It encourages us to embrace difficulty and discomfort, persist in and learn from setbacks, critical feedback, and the experiences and lives of others. It’s an approach to life and learning that explores how adapting and overcoming is essential to success.
Tools & Resources
- Developing a Growth Mindset by Dr. Carol Dweck
- Growth Mindset vs. Fixed Mindset by John Spencer (2-minute video)
- Growth Mindset by Psychology Today
- Resilience: Build Skills to Endure Hardship by the Mayo Clinic
Living Practice
When we embrace belonging, we can reconsider our ideas and approaches to life, obstacles, and community-building. We think of this paradigm shift as a living practice—it’s not something we perfect but something we continue to practice and learn from each day. Our living practice involves approaching the world with curiosity and joy and being interested in learning more about the people and the world around us. It’s how we show up for our colleagues and patrons and the ability to give ourselves grace when we make mistakes or fall short of our goals. It requires us to share our whole, authentic selves.
Tools & Resources
- Brené Brown’s 10 Guideposts for Wholehearted Living (An Actionable Guide)
- What Are the Three Steps to an Authentic Life (Know yourself, Be Yourself, Own Yourself)
- How Compassion Could Save Your Strained Relationships Betty Hart, TED Talk
Embrace Discomfort
Rather than fearing the unknown, when we embrace or welcome discomfort, we can learn and grow (which doesn’t mean it’s easy). When change happens, or we find ourselves in an unfamiliar or unpredictable situation, we may instinctively resort to a fight, freeze, or flight response. To adapt more nimbly, we can identify what triggers discomfort and develop ways to approach it, including liberating ourselves from the trap of comparison, taking small steps when trying something new, and using restorative practices to keep ourselves grounded.
Tools & Resources
- Embracing Discomfort: The Surprising Path to a Meaningful Life Diana Hill, Mindful
- Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable Luvvie Ajayi Jones
- Power of Vulnerability Brené Brown TED Talk
- Embracing Discomfort Tool
Restorative Practices
The work of belonging is rooted in restorative practices that improve social connections, repair relationships between people, and address harm where it has occurred. To do this work effectively, we must take care of ourselves by practicing mindfulness, being proactive about self-care, practicing compassion, which fosters empathy and understanding, by giving and accepting grace, and holding space for others as they respond to change and disruption.
Tools & Resources
- The Framework for Mental Health & Well-Being in the Workplace Plus the Six Causes of Burnout Bobbi L. Newman, Librarian By Day
- The Art of Now: Six Steps to Living in the Moment Psychology Today
- What is Restorative Practices? International Institute for Restorative Practices Graduate School
At the 2024 PLA Conference, we asked: What does it mean to belong?
Here's what people said:
- Representation
- Being vulnerable safely
- Your opinion matters
- Language access/justice
- To feel at home
- Positive interaction
- To be a part "of"
- Connection to people & place, with opportunities at both
- Full confidence to take up space
- Welcomed & comfortable to contribute
- To be a part of something without fear of judgment or ostracization
- Feeling valued & included
- To be given allyship
- See commonalities with your peers
- To have other humans "get" you
- To feel understood
- To be comfortable
- It means you can be yourself, free of judgment
- You are able to be part of something bigger
- Security & safety
- Having your needs and feelings considered
- Emotional safety
- To be seen, known, heard, respected & celebrated
- No pretense
- Feeling included
- To feel wanted
- A place where people know my name
- To not be othered
- Accepted
- Cornell University DEI Glossary
- Racial Equity Tools - Equity In The Center
- Multicultural Teaching and Learning: Inclusion and Belonging In and Outside the Classroom - Brandeis Library
- Right To Be
- Free Resilience Training
- Free Guides. Topics Include:
- Growing as an Ally
- Bystander Intervention
- Implicit Bias
- Repairing Harm Done
- Resilience
- Freedom Lifted - Mia Henry
- United Way 21-Day Equity Challenge
- Articles
- Personal Agency: The Art of Making Empowering Choices That Are True To You - Remi Sharon Pearson
- 8 Ways To Be a (Better) Ally - Cecelia Kersten ’23, S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications, Syracuse University
- What Is the Sense of Agency and Why Does it Matter? - James W. Moore, Published by Frontiers in Psychology
- Self-Awareness and Self-Knowledge
- Ending Unhealthy Competition: Holding Space and Encouraging Your Peers - Gabriela Tamara Suggs, American Medical Women's Association
What now? You’ve traveled the Personal Path and are ready to take your next steps. Before you go, revisit the reflection prompts at the beginning of the path.
Do you still feel the same way about your responses? Have you changed your perspective? Would you answer the questions differently?
Return to any exercise or subject you find challenging. Are you more receptive now? Would you like to deepen your understanding of the subject matter?
As you move forward, consider:
- What barriers do I face in creating belonging? What do others face? How do I hold myself accountable for my decision-making and actions?
- How does my work/life balance impact my ability to be resilient?
- As I make decisions, do I consider who will benefit and who it harms?
This practice of empathy and consideration is crucial for personal growth and positive impact.Keep journaling about your experiences. This practice provides a supportive structure for your learning journey, helps you measure progress, capture insights, and inspires continued growth.
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When you’re ready, take what you have learned to a different path: Professional, Organizational, or Community.